I often wonder what would have happened had I not had my son, Lucas. He was my turning point, the bringer of light into my life. Before Lucas my life was full of variety and freedom. It was good, don’t get me wrong, it’s just that I had a deep sense of fulfillment that was missing. What happened next was probably the one thing I never thought would happen. I became a single parent. I never imagined I would have a child and raise him on my own, and then amongst it all start my own business.
It was having Lucas that deeply shifted my values. Creating a future that would give him choices was my driver. This gave me an incredible drive to wake up every day and knock on doors and grow my business, with an 8 month old baby in tow. I started creating a business that would not only make a difference to people’s lives, but would pay me enough money to support us both. Being a sole parent is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, and the most rewarding. I’ll never forget the night I was curled up in a ball on the floor of my apartment alone, with my little baby asleep next to me. I was swimming in a world of doubt, uncertainty and self hatred. “How did I get here? This is not my life. How am I supposed to inspire others when I’m so lost and empty?” I thought “How do I get out of this? How do I turn this around? I have no job and no income and now I’m a sole parent. How can I do anything? I’m trapped.” I’m not sure how the next moment took place, or what lead me to turn my head to an old box of books I’d had for years. I’d packed them away waiting for the time I could unpack them and actually put them on the book shelf. I moved over to the box and reached in and picked up a little book of quotes that I’d been given when I was 18. I said out aloud “Ok, show me what to do” I picked up the little book I’d had since I was 18. I opened up to the first page and there it was in front of me,
“crisis events often explode the illusions that anchor our lives.” – Robert Veninga
In that moment I had such an epiphany, that the illusion I had, was my belief about myself. A deeply ingrained belief that I couldn’t achieve success because I had a kid, because I was a sole parent, because I lived in a town that had not much going on. So I started asking different questions. “What if I could create a successful business, that allowed me to inspire people, make money, and provide me with enough freedom to care for my son?” Once I had asked a different question I noticed I started to see my vision so much more clearly. I started to visualize what I wanted to create, I could see it in brilliant color, there I was speaking to people, changing lives and bringing hope, courage and inspiration to people. In that moment I made the decision. What if I just “show up” every day and be ready for all the opportunities that will come my way? I shifted the focus off the illusion of doubt and fear and moved to a vision of possibility and inspiration. I took action, gained more confidence and started connecting with people, getting out of my comfort zone, reading and absorbing my life in doing things that would help others as much as possible. I got a coach and everything took off from there.
Nine years on, my first business is going strong with an incredible team that has been helping people be inspired and get their lives back. I have created two more companies since then. One in the USA and now Career Change Happens. From my years of working with thousands of people from all walks of life, the greatest passion I have is for helping women go from being on the floor curled up in a ball, believing that their negative beliefs about themselves are real, to reminding them they are not real. They are the illusions that anchor us to not leading a life that makes our heart sing. I’m starting a revolution, the ground up revolution empowering women to remember their brilliance and shine their light on the world and show up to make a difference. Are you ready to make your heart sing?
Love and light
FOUNDER AND COMMUNICATION EXPERT
As Founder of Career Change Happens and Find Your Calling, Maria has had years of experience in the world of Cognitive Behavioural Conditioning, and personal and professional development. Her intense passion for supporting others in making their dreams a reality has helped thousands of people clarify and move into positive futures.