A lot of our life is wasted trying to be someone else. Growing up we are told to be this way or that – usually more or less than we are most naturally. Our parents and teachers urge us to be more respectful or less talkative. Later, as teenagers, we try on several identities… the Geek, the Athlete, the Rebel… searching for the perfect fit. As adults, though we’ve settled on a pattern of behavior, we are still making adjustments trying to be more successful or more lovable.
One of the most common and stressful situations we can find ourselves in is quitting a job or being laid off, and then finding that it takes 3 months or longer before a suitable position comes up. When my family first arrived in Australia, it took nearly 6 months before my husband was fortunate enough to be offered a position that fit his skill sets and experience. With a four-year-old and a baby due, our savings dwindled quickly with rent, a second-hand car, and relocation expenses as we established our new lives.
My mother grew up in the 60’s with a migrant family from the UK. She was one of twelve children and from the time she was born (10th child in a family of 4 girls and 8 boys) she had entered into a world of uncertainty and financial struggle. A pattern, that became part of her belief system, and ultimately, became part of how she viewed her world.
One week before the Earthquake, I found myself in a village, west of Pokhara, with my Nepali friend. We went for a lovely walk and he pointed out the Kali river. At that moment I recalled my small amount of knowledge on the Goddess Kali (a Hindu Goddess) and remembered that she was the goddess of destruction and creation.
Friends can often be your worst enemies when you are seeking new heights in your life. It is a harsh call and unfortunately in many cases this is more than true.
Have you ever been to a school reunion before? When you arrive all of a sudden you are acting like you did when you where in school and doing things that are totally out of character to who you have become now. This for me is the greatest proof that your environment and the people you associate with has a huge impact on how you act.